### [[Raising Kids For An Unknown Future]] #Parenting #Values #Generations #Society #Culture #Advice At the current pace of technological and societal progression, I believe that traditional parenting (whatever that is), will become obsolete, if not outright destructive. The generational gap between parents and their children is widening by the day. If you are a 30 year old today, with a 1 year old child, you are an adult in 2022 trying to raise a person who will live as an adult in 2056. Also, more than ever, parents quite literally have NO IDEA when it comes to the culture that surrounds their children, the media they consume, the games they play, sometimes even the words they use. The disparity between the lives of parents and that of their children is wider than ever, and it will keep widening exponentially. This will put all currently common parenting paradigms to their knees. I think a safe way to navigate this for the time being is to follow a value based parenting style. Teach your children values that will guide them through their lives, regardless of the situations they are put in. Don't focus too much on specifics, don't obsess over dos and don'ts. In other words: Don't teach your child to say "thank you" .. instead, teach them the values of appreciation and gratefulness. Don't teach them to say "please" .. instead, teach them the values of kindness and courtesy. Don't teach them not to cuss at others .. instead, teach them the values of respect and and tolerance. Don't teach them formulas and capital cities .. instead, teach them the values of knowledge and curiosity. Etc .. you get the point ๐Ÿ˜› More about value based parenting [here](https://centerforparentingeducation.org/library-of-articles/indulgence-values/values-based-parenting-guideposts-for-choices/). Some might wonder: what's wrong in teaching both? I am a strong believer that putting so much focus on specific habits and behaviors actually dilutes the "value" with time. Our brains like simple stuff. If you can be a "good boy" just buy saying please and thank you, what is the point of all the effort you need to potentially put into understanding and living by values? A typical example is "religious people" who end up doing all the "rituals" and saying all the "words", but no longer live by or even know the values behind their religion. Another example is kids who complete their education with the highest grades, but as adults, turn out to lack the curiosity and drive to learn. Originally Shared on: [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/theali/posts/pfbid02iyK6qE9wATnRGoU7zWxm94xJnJvyzkfwr5LRU6LGeQiydsQ5gfs5rt12LEjMae2Gl) January 1, 2023 > [!rtl]- ุจุงู„ุนุฑุจูŠ > > ููŠ ุธู„ ุงู„ูˆุชูŠุฑุฉ ุงู„ุญุงู„ูŠุฉ ู„ู„ุชู‚ุฏู… ุงู„ุชูƒู†ูˆู„ูˆุฌูŠ ูˆุงู„ู…ุฌุชู…ุนูŠ ุงู„ุญุงู„ูŠุŒ ุฃุนุชู‚ุฏ ุฃู† ุงู„ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุงู„ุชู‚ู„ูŠุฏูŠุฉ ุณุชุตุจุญ ุบูŠุฑ ู…ุฌุฏูŠุฉุŒ ุฅู† ู„ู… ุชูƒู† ู…ุฏู…ุฑุฉ ุชู…ุงู…ู‹ุง. > > ุชุชุณุน ุงู„ูุฌูˆุฉ ุจูŠู† ุงู„ุฃุฌูŠุงู„ ุจูŠู† ุงู„ุขุจุงุก ูˆุงู„ุฃู…ู‡ุงุช ูˆุฃุทูุงู„ู‡ู… ูŠูˆู…ู‹ุง ุจุนุฏ ูŠูˆู…. > > ุฅุฐุง ูƒู†ุช ุงู„ูŠูˆู… ููŠ ุงู„ุซู„ุงุซูŠู† ู…ู† ุนู…ุฑูƒุŒ ูˆู„ุฏูŠูƒ ุทูู„ ุนู…ุฑู‡ ุนุงู… ูˆุงุญุฏุŒ ูุฃู†ุช ุดุฎุต ุจุงู„ุบ ููŠ ุนุงู… 2022 ุชุญุงูˆู„ ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุดุฎุต ุณูŠุนูŠุด ูƒุดุฎุต ุจุงู„ุบ ููŠ ุนุงู… 2056. > > ูˆุฃูŠุถู‹ุงุŒ ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู† ุฃูŠ ูˆู‚ุช ู…ุถู‰ุŒ ู„ูŠุณ ู„ุฏู‰ ุงู„ุขุจุงุก ูˆุงู„ุฃู…ู‡ุงุช ุฃูŠ ููƒุฑุฉ ุญุฑููŠุงู‹ ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูŠุชุนู„ู‚ ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ุจุงู„ุซู‚ุงูุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุญูŠุท ุจุฃุทูุงู„ู‡ู…ุŒ ูˆูˆุณุงุฆู„ ุงู„ุฅุนู„ุงู… ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠุณุชู‡ู„ูƒูˆู†ู‡ุงุŒ ูˆุงู„ุฃู„ุนุงุจ ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠู„ุนุจูˆู†ู‡ุงุŒ ูˆุฃุญูŠุงู†ู‹ุง ุญุชู‰ ุงู„ูƒู„ู…ุงุช ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠุณุชุฎุฏู…ูˆู†ู‡ุง. > > ุฃุตุจุญ ุงู„ุชูุงูˆุช ุจูŠู† ุญูŠุงุฉ ุงู„ุขุจุงุก ูˆุงู„ุฃู…ู‡ุงุช ูˆุญูŠุงุฉ ุฃุทูุงู„ู‡ู… ุฃูˆุณุน ู…ู† ุฃูŠ ูˆู‚ุช ู…ุถู‰ุŒ ูˆุณูŠุณุชู…ุฑ ููŠ ุงู„ุงุชุณุงุน ุจุดูƒู„ ูƒุจูŠุฑ. ูˆู‡ุฐุง ุณูŠุถุน ุฌู…ูŠุน ู†ู…ุงุฐุฌ ุงู„ุฃุจูˆุฉ ูˆุงู„ุฃู…ูˆู…ุฉ ุงู„ุดุงุฆุนุฉ ุญุงู„ูŠู‹ุง ุนู„ู‰ ุฑูƒุจุชูŠู‡ุง. > > ุฃุนุชู‚ุฏ ุฃู† ุงู„ุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ุงู„ุขู…ู†ุฉ ู„ู„ุชุนุงู…ู„ ู…ุน ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ููŠ ุงู„ูˆู‚ุช ุงู„ุญุงู„ูŠ ู‡ูŠ ุงุชุจุงุน ุฃุณู„ูˆุจ ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ู‚ุงุฆู… ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ู‚ูŠู…. ุนู„ู‘ู… ุฃุทูุงู„ูƒ ุงู„ู‚ูŠู… ุงู„ุชูŠ ุณุชูˆุฌู‡ู‡ู… ุฎู„ุงู„ ุญูŠุงุชู‡ู…ุŒ ุจุบุถ ุงู„ู†ุธุฑ ุนู† ุงู„ู…ูˆุงู‚ู ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠุชุนุฑุถูˆู† ู„ู‡ุง. ู„ุง ุชุฑูƒุฒูŠ ูƒุซูŠุฑู‹ุง ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุชูุงุตูŠู„ุŒ ูˆู„ุง ุชู†ุดุบู„ูŠ ุจู…ุง ูŠุฌุจ ูุนู„ู‡ ูˆู…ุง ู„ุง ูŠุฌุจ ูุนู„ู‡. > > ุจุนุจุงุฑุฉ ุฃุฎุฑู‰: ู„ุง ุชุนู„ู‘ู… ุทูู„ูƒ ุฃู† ูŠู‚ูˆู„ "ุดูƒุฑู‹ุง ู„ูƒ"... ุจู„ ุนู„ู‘ู…ู‡ ู‚ูŠู… ุงู„ุชู‚ุฏูŠุฑ ูˆุงู„ุงู…ุชู†ุงู†. > > ู„ุง ุชุนู„ู‘ู…ู‡ ุฃู† ูŠู‚ูˆู„ "ู…ู† ูุถู„ูƒ"... ุจุฏู„ุงู‹ ู…ู† ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ุนู„ู‘ู…ู‡ ู‚ูŠู… ุงู„ู„ุทู ูˆุงู„ู…ุฌุงู…ู„ุฉ. > > ู„ุง ุชุนู„ู‘ู…ู‡ู… ุฃู„ุง ูŠุดุชู…ูˆุง ุงู„ุขุฎุฑูŠู†... ุจู„ ุนู„ู‘ู…ู‡ู… ู‚ูŠู… ุงู„ุงุญุชุฑุงู… ูˆุงู„ุชุณุงู…ุญ. > > ู„ุง ุชุนู„ู…ู‡ู… ุงู„ุตูŠุบ ูˆุงู„ู…ุฏู† ุงู„ูƒุจุฑู‰ ... ุจุฏู„ุงู‹ ู…ู† ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ุนู„ู…ู‡ู… ู‚ูŠู… ุงู„ู…ุนุฑูุฉ ูˆุงู„ูุถูˆู„. > > ู‚ุฏ ูŠุชุณุงุกู„ ุงู„ุจุนุถ: ู…ุง ุงู„ุฎุทุฃ ููŠ ุชุนู„ูŠู… ุงู„ุงุซู†ูŠู† ู…ุนู‹ุงุŸ > > ุฃู†ุง ู…ู† ุฃุดุฏ ุงู„ู…ุคู…ู†ูŠู† ุจุฃู† ุงู„ุชุฑูƒูŠุฒ ุจุดูƒู„ ูƒุจูŠุฑ ุนู„ู‰ ุนุงุฏุงุช ูˆุณู„ูˆูƒูŠุงุช ู…ุนูŠู†ุฉ ูŠุฎูู ููŠ ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุน ู…ู† " ุงู„ู‚ูŠู…" ู…ุน ู…ุฑูˆุฑ ุงู„ูˆู‚ุช. ูุฃุฏู…ุบุชู†ุง ุชุญุจ ุงู„ุฃุดูŠุงุก ุงู„ุจุณูŠุทุฉ. ุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู† ุจุฅู…ูƒุงู†ูƒ ุฃู† ุชูƒูˆู† "ูˆู„ุฏู‹ุง ุตุงู„ุญู‹ุง" ุจู…ุฌุฑุฏ ู‚ูˆู„ "ู…ู† ูุถู„ูƒ" ูˆ"ุดูƒุฑู‹ุง"ุŒ ูู…ุง ุงู„ูุงุฆุฏุฉ ู…ู† ูƒู„ ุงู„ุฌู‡ุฏ ุงู„ุฐูŠ ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุญุชู…ู„ ุฃู† ุชุจุฐู„ู‡ ููŠ ูู‡ู… ุงู„ู‚ูŠู… ูˆุงู„ุนูŠุด ุจู‡ุงุŸ ูˆู…ู† ุงู„ุฃู…ุซู„ุฉ ุงู„ู†ู…ูˆุฐุฌูŠุฉ ุนู„ู‰ ุฐู„ูƒ "ุงู„ู…ุชุฏูŠู†ูˆู†" ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠู†ุชู‡ูŠ ุจู‡ู… ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ุฅู„ู‰ ุฃุฏุงุก ุฌู…ูŠุน "ุงู„ุทู‚ูˆุณ" ูˆุชุฑุฏูŠุฏ ุฌู…ูŠุน "ุงู„ูƒู„ู…ุงุช"ุŒ ู„ูƒู†ู‡ู… ู„ุง ูŠุนูŠุดูˆู† ุฃูˆ ุญุชู‰ ูŠุนุฑููˆู† ุงู„ู‚ูŠู… ุงู„ูƒุงู…ู†ุฉ ูˆุฑุงุก ุฏูŠู†ู‡ู…. ู…ุซุงู„ ุขุฎุฑ ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠูƒู…ู„ูˆู† ุชุนู„ูŠู…ู‡ู… ุจุฃุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฏุฑุฌุงุชุŒ ูˆู„ูƒู† ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูŠูƒุจุฑูˆู† ูŠุชุญูˆู„ูˆู† ุฅู„ู‰ ุฃุดุฎุงุต ูŠูุชู‚ุฑูˆู† ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ูุถูˆู„ ูˆุงู„ุฏุงูุน ู„ู„ุชุนู„ู…. > [!seealso] Related Thoughts > >- [[๐Ÿ‘ถRaising Children For A Different World]] >- [[Teach Your Kids HOW To Learn]] >- [[Generational Difference Between Parents And Kids]] >- [[Why Kids Stay Silent]] >- [[Parenting Needs An Update]]